How long is enough

[nothasoul]

Okay fellahs, how long would you go without getting any from your wife or girlfriend and say this is it we need to part our seperate ways? I say 6 months without getting any i'm pretty much threw. I am not the cheating type so before i would go there i would end my marriage.

[stickskills1]

Man 6 months is a long time. After my wife had our first child the wait in between was driving me crazy! The second and last child I had to stay away from stiff breezes (no pun intended) Back in the day, Bay Watch was hot and after the opening credits I had to change the channel! :D

[Skinsman 68]

Yeah 6 months is a red flag that theres an underlying problem there. I would try everything possible to get to the root of the problem before I contemplated divorce though. But, of course, it takes two willing people to make something work and no amount of counseling is going to fix that.

Good luck with that situation. I sure hope everything works out for you.

[nothasoul]

Yeah 6 months is a red flag that theres an underlying problem there. I would try everything possible to get to the root of the problem before I contemplated divorce though. But, of course, it takes two willing people to make something work and no amount of counseling is going to fix that.

Good luck with that situation. I sure hope everything works out for you.
No! It's not my problem yet:eek: . I just wanted to know from you guys who have been in a relationship for awhile how you felt about that. I know alot of men come into the notion that you will get alot of sex from a marriage but it's a lie:mad: .

[hakaida]

When I'm with someone, I need it 2-3 times a week.

[drunkenstarfish]

Needing and getting are two entirely different things.

I think it depends on the woman. Some women just don't need it that often. My wife is this way. It puts a strain on the relationship, but you gotta look at it from both sides. Every guy wants it all the time. You gotta learn to compremise. You gotta do things she wants to get to the things you want.

[RicoVacilon]

I agree that not getting it often is a sign of an underlying problem and THAT is what needs to be address--not the frequency of sex.

Luckily I don't have that problem. :)

[Nevada_Ballin]

I think this is only a problem when you have a relationship that was built on sex but not real love or friendship. Relationships that are built around one's physical needs are sure to hit Divorce Court eventually.

[nothasoul]

I think this is only a problem when you have a relationship that was built on sex but not real love or friendship. Relationships that are built around one's physical needs are sure to hit Divorce Court eventually.

"I know that's right".

[joetoronto]

i think 6 months is way too long and shows a complete lack of intimacy in the marriage.

i know i wouldn't stand for it, i wouldn't stand for 2 weeks never mind 6 months.

[RicoVacilon]

Yea I think those of us that have been in relationships where it's been less than once a week can look back and say "yea that relationship was on the rocks for awhile." I'm averaging once a day. And we don't even see each other everyday. You do the math.

[oouie433]

early in my marriage (been married for 7years now together for 8), for a month's time, the only time we "united" was once in that 30 day period.

That prompted me to leave for an evening. The next morning, we got together and talked in which time my wife informed me that she hadn't realized how important it was to me. It just wasn't that big a deal with her.

So, she would just let me do what I needed to do to fulfill my needs. (Now maybe I'm in the minority on this point) I told her that if she's not "into" it then it's not nearly as enjoyable as it could be for me.

If I wanted her to just lie there and not participate, I could find more "enjoyable" ways of (to quote the song), releasing some pressure.

Now, she tries to be into it at least once a week where it's really good. But like the previous poster said before, I've come to understand that it's a two way street and I've also got to do my part (romance her) to make sure she's in the mood...

It's easy when you're not married and the weight of kids and life weigh you down and kill the mood. When she gives birth, you'd best believe you aint gonna get it everyday (just because her body needs to heal at least 6 weeks is recommended).

When we were just dating and engaged, I too got it everyday. Until I got married (I was deceived, sniff...lol...). .

Bottom line - communication is the key

[BigW]

I've been with my wife for 16 Years (6 years of marriage). The theory that women don't crave It as much as men, Is complete and utter BS. If anything Women are hornier then men. The only difference Is that we are not very good at hiding It...They (women) are. The most I've spent without having sex Is 2 weeks, and that's because we were pissed off at each other. 6months Is a pretty long time and I for one would not put up with It, unless wifey Is sick or she has some other problems like family issues that are too emotional for her to even think of sex. If she doesn't even bother to talk about sex or even want to have sex with you for 6 Mths. I would definately have a sitdown with her and try to talk about what the problem Is. I understand that sex Is not all there Is to a relationship, but It's a very important part that you need. If you're more gangsta, just wait till she's asleep and rub one off on her back. When she wakes up to your seeds on her back. Just go back to sleep and pretend like you don't know anything.:D or always keep a couple of shorties on the side, just In case. Anyway I wish you the best of luck, keep us informed.

[RAYMONE]

let her know Rents due a least once o month, but you will let her split those payment up. ha ha (ps don't make me go find a new tenant!!

[oouie433]

let her know Rents due a least once o month, but you will let her split those payment up. ha ha (ps don't make me go find a new tenant!!
hahahahahahahhahahahaha

[TRUEVisionDC]

Needing and getting are two entirely different things.

I think it depends on the woman. Some women just don't need it that often. My wife is this way. It puts a strain on the relationship, but you gotta look at it from both sides. Every guy wants it all the time. You gotta learn to compremise. You gotta do things she wants to get to the things you want.
Oh hell no. Its one of her very few jobs. Screw your husband. Its not about HER needing OR wanting. She needs to satisfy you...period.

[mightypharaoh]

Oh hell no. Its one of her very few jobs. Screw your husband. Its not about HER needing OR wanting. She needs to satisfy you...period.

i can't believe this is coming from the king of compromise in a relationship:eek:

[VG_Bert]

My wife read somewhere that guys need it every 72 hours at least...so she does her best to keep on schedule.

But, it's best when a little romance is used. My Pastor once said pre-marital meetings that lovemaking is an all day job.

You gotta punch the clock!

[Bearfanmike20]

My wife read somewhere that guys need it every 72 hours at least...so she does her best to keep on schedule.

But, it's best when a little romance is used. My Pastor once said pre-marital meetings that lovemaking is an all day job.

You gotta punch the clock!
You pastor is ver wise.. :D

[joetoronto]

My wife read somewhere that guys need it every 72 hours at least...so she does her best to keep on schedule.

But, it's best when a little romance is used. My Pastor once said pre-marital meetings that lovemaking is an all day job.

You gotta punch the clock!

generally speaking, it's true. the kids are always around and bustin your balls about one thing or another.

once in a while though, you get a chance at some spontaneity and it feels extra good. :D

[VG_Bert]

True True Joe T. We have 4 kids so anything spontaneous is mucho excellent. Counts twice in my book :)

[drunkenstarfish]

EVERY 72 HOURS?????????????/
Holy sheet!!!!!
I am a sexual camel. I go months at a time without. I have a beanbag chair with me everywhere I go. Never have to look for a chair to sit on.:(

[cew6225]

You guys will hate me for this one.But maybe you need to spend a little more time with her instead of playing Madden so darn much.Now I know if my wife of 18 yrs didn't give it to me at least once a week let alone 6 months I wouid have said something by now so talk to her before you act on anything else dawg.Yes when I've made my comments about not getting any,she has told me if I would come to bed instead of playing Madden all night ,I might have gotten it from her.Or any game that I might be interested in at the time of my complaints.Sometimes you just got to give her quality time as well as the rest of things in your life.Maybe if you spent as much time playing with her as you do Madden,you might be as good with her as you are with Madden.Then maybe not,depending on how good you really are.That was just some ribbing dawg.Talk to her and if you can't,then maybe thats the problem in the first place.

[TRUEVisionDC]

Okay fellahs, how long would you go without getting any from your wife or girlfriend and say this is it we need to part our seperate ways? I say 6 months without getting any i'm pretty much threw. I am not the cheating type so before i would go there i would end my marriage.
It really depends on what you have going on. I know sex is a must but if you are THAT busy...6 months could come and go. I think I was pushing it after my son was born. I really think 6 weeks turned into 6 months.

[Bearfanmike20]

I dont even want to talk about it... I dont think i'm ever having sex again. :(

[rank is dumb]

I dont even want to talk about it... I dont think i'm ever having sex again. :(

I know I'm never getting that sig you owe me.. :mad:

[Paydirt404]

2 Weeks max.......

[Zymotic]

A week to 10 days ... maybe longer if they've been in a car accident or something and are all banged up and swollen...

6 months ... come on... what's going on ? What has she been saying or doing to tip you off that she is pissed about something ? Did she just have a kid ? Did someone in her family just die ? Lose her job ? What you doing to keep her happy?