Asking for a gathering of the minds...(of course you know this is about a woman!)

[Shiloh]

To my fellow old heads, i come to you seeking wisdom!

Finally in my 32 years of life i've found a good woman, I've always had a history of being honest, and upfront in my relationships, and this one was no different. I told her stories of my past, let her see who i really was and she was down with everything.

fast forward to 6 months into our relationship, and I'm still good to go, no cheating, no clubbing, hell i've even cut back on the amount of porn i used to watch! I'm really feeling my new girl.... but now... she is killing me!

Every other day she is moody or emotional... when i ask her what is wrong she says "nothing." When i finaly get her to talk she tells me the problem is that she has a "feeling" i'm up to no good, or not telling her the "whole" truth.... WTF!

I keep telling her to judge me by my "whole" body of work, and she even admits that i'm a good man, and a great BF... but she still feels this way. How in god's name do you fight something like this!

I told her let my actions be my proof, and she said she could do that, but every other day is the same thing... angry with me for nothing, crying, not wanting to talk... serious it interfering with "our" time.

i don't want to walk, but it's getting real thick, anyone know how i could turn the tide.... thanks in advance.

[Bearfanmike20]

To my fellow old heads, i come to you seeking wisdom!

Finally in my 32 years of life i've found a good woman, I've always had a history of being honest, and upfront in my relationships, and this one was no different. I told her stories of my past, let her see who i really was and she was down with everything.

fast forward to 6 months into our relationship, and I'm still good to go, no cheating, no clubbing, hell i've even cut back on the amount of porn i used to watch! I'm really feeling my new girl.... but now... she is killing me!

Every other day she is moody or emotional... when i ask her what is wrong she says "nothing." When i finaly get her to talk she tells me the problem is that she has a "feeling" i'm up to no good, or not telling her the "whole" truth.... WTF!

I keep telling her to judge me by my "whole" body of work, and she even admits that i'm a good man, and a great BF... but she still feels this way. How in god's name do you fight something like this!

I told her let my actions be my proof, and she said she could do that, but every other day is the same thing... angry with me for nothing, crying, not wanting to talk... serious it interfering with "our" time.

i don't want to walk, but it's getting real thick, anyone know how i could turn the tide.... thanks in advance.


One of 2 things...

1. Shes got a girlfriend feeding her with bs...

2. She's the one up to somthing... my experience tells me that women tend to get very agressive towards their men in that way when they have somthing to hide....

But dont go digging for it... If there is somthing it will come. Learn this phrase..

You have nothing to worry about just as I have nothing to worry about. **insert favorite I love you speach here**

That first line is important cause if she is hiding somthing the guilt will become soooo unbearable she will let it out.

Thats the best I got.

[getting awn]

If you are being true to yourself, you prove your worth by the way you live your life. She probably has issue with men dogging her out. Sometimes you have to live you life. If she is the one, she has to adjust. I say just live your life, the truth will come out on both sides....

[themenace47]

the first 6 months are where the woman pretends to give 1 flying **** about you, your interests and anything that has to do with you.

after that they do whatever they can to keep the focus squarely on themselves...

its not gonna get better, if you do manage to turn the tide, she'll be looking to turn it back and while your chatting away on madden sites and such, she's taking power and control advice from a bunch of angry, fatass women who dont have r-ships of their own to ruin anymore and you stand little chance of ever having a comfortable situation unless you bow down.

what she has done is this... she has created a situation where not only are you responsible for your own actions, words and feelings but you are now responsible for hers too.

by her own standards she should be focused on making you happy and proving her loyalty to you... instead she'll just skip that and get straight to you proving yourself some more...

sounds fun... for her anyway

[Zymotic]

To my fellow old heads, i come to you seeking wisdom!

Finally in my 32 years of life i've found a good woman, I've always had a history of being honest, and upfront in my relationships, and this one was no different. I told her stories of my past, let her see who i really was and she was down with everything.

fast forward to 6 months into our relationship, and I'm still good to go, no cheating, no clubbing, hell i've even cut back on the amount of porn i used to watch! I'm really feeling my new girl.... but now... she is killing me!

Every other day she is moody or emotional... when i ask her what is wrong she says "nothing." When i finaly get her to talk she tells me the problem is that she has a "feeling" i'm up to no good, or not telling her the "whole" truth.... WTF!

I keep telling her to judge me by my "whole" body of work, and she even admits that i'm a good man, and a great BF... but she still feels this way. How in god's name do you fight something like this!

I told her let my actions be my proof, and she said she could do that, but every other day is the same thing... angry with me for nothing, crying, not wanting to talk... serious it interfering with "our" time.

i don't want to walk, but it's getting real thick, anyone know how i could turn the tide.... thanks in advance.

Different perspective... Most women are pretty insecure. How you got the good times to last 6 months I will never know. I think the hotness usually cools in like 3 months, then it starts to get real ... and deep...

If your woman is telling you that you are still fly after months, and that you are a great bf , she isn't cheating or thinking you are cheating... she wants to marry you. She is wondering why after 6 months you haven't asked. Have you two talked about marriage ? Is her friggin clock ticking ? Usually takes a year before they start getting really pissed for no reason, she ripe and want to rush it ?

Sometimes people do things because they either don't want to deal with the truth... or they are afraid of something ... if she wants to marry you, and thinks you dont want to marry her, she might create reasons why you havent asked yet.

Or.... maybe she is just a b!tch... lol :p

[nothasoul]

To my fellow old heads, i come to you seeking wisdom!

Finally in my 32 years of life i've found a good woman, I've always had a history of being honest, and upfront in my relationships, and this one was no different. I told her stories of my past, let her see who i really was and she was down with everything.

fast forward to 6 months into our relationship, and I'm still good to go, no cheating, no clubbing, hell i've even cut back on the amount of porn i used to watch! I'm really feeling my new girl.... but now... she is killing me!

Every other day she is moody or emotional... when i ask her what is wrong she says "nothing." When i finaly get her to talk she tells me the problem is that she has a "feeling" i'm up to no good, or not telling her the "whole" truth.... WTF!

I keep telling her to judge me by my "whole" body of work, and she even admits that i'm a good man, and a great BF... but she still feels this way. How in god's name do you fight something like this!

I told her let my actions be my proof, and she said she could do that, but every other day is the same thing... angry with me for nothing, crying, not wanting to talk... serious it interfering with "our" time.

i don't want to walk, but it's getting real thick, anyone know how i could turn the tide.... thanks in advance.
This can be many reasons and many answers. How old is she to start with and that will give us more direct answers, but other then that go see a relationship expert or theropist if you want to salvage or progress in what you have if you want to keep this relatiobnship.Other then that cut your ties cause if she has been burned then your dealing with a scorn woman and it won't get better from here.

[Skinsman 68]

She probably has had prior boyfriends who have cheated, lied, etc., and some of those insecurities are coming through now. The closer she gets to you, the more she starts to fear that you will let her down, like others have done in the past. Have you talked to her about her prior relationships? Some women are OK talking about it while others are real tight-lipped. I would start there though because it sounds more like insecurity on her part than anything you are doing wrong.

Good luck:cool:

[TopDawg16]

To my fellow old heads, i come to you seeking wisdom!

Finally in my 32 years of life i've found a good woman, I've always had a history of being honest, and upfront in my relationships, and this one was no different. I told her stories of my past, let her see who i really was and she was down with everything.

fast forward to 6 months into our relationship, and I'm still good to go, no cheating, no clubbing, hell i've even cut back on the amount of porn i used to watch! I'm really feeling my new girl.... but now... she is killing me!

Every other day she is moody or emotional... when i ask her what is wrong she says "nothing." When i finaly get her to talk she tells me the problem is that she has a "feeling" i'm up to no good, or not telling her the "whole" truth.... WTF!

I keep telling her to judge me by my "whole" body of work, and she even admits that i'm a good man, and a great BF... but she still feels this way. How in god's name do you fight something like this!

I told her let my actions be my proof, and she said she could do that, but every other day is the same thing... angry with me for nothing, crying, not wanting to talk... serious it interfering with "our" time.

i don't want to walk, but it's getting real thick, anyone know how i could turn the tide.... thanks in advance.


Sounds like you are dating my EX lol.

[CrazyOldGuy]

I have to agree with some of the others. This is a warning sign and of good things it does not fortell.

In no way shape or form can you control how she deals with her issues or yours. You have done the right thing by being upfront and honest. You have done the right thing by assuring her, that she is the only one that you love and by proving that as much as you can.

If she can't accept that,believe that and admit that, then you're in for a lot of hurt. You cannot prove a negative, and if she believes that the negative is true then your relationship is going in the wrong direction.

If she is the ONE, you can encourage her to go with you to consuling to work on her issues, she may have past issues, with former bfs mayber her father(? perhaps he cheated on her mother), if she doesn't want to or she continues to believe the negative (because of her own issues, her gf feeding her that crap) then you have a decision to make, can you live and love with her even if she is miserable and always doubts you? Do you really believe when you have a down point in your life that she will have your back?


Good luck...