Question for the Married Guys...

[sideoutshu]

Women and men change throughout life. The same woman you married is not the same woman today. Communication is number 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5.

*Please make sure you continue to keep the relationship young (go out, have QT, party if possible)

*Please get involved in church together

*Make her feel like she is needed is absolutely essential. i dont care how many Beyonce songs are blasted about independence, your woman needs to feel important

*Try new things. restuarants, cultures, arts, music, and yes....sex

*Make sure you keep those "aint got no man and Im mad", beoches away. Nothing like a salty broad putting ideas in your womans head

*Make time for a vacation at least every quarter. Nothing like getting away with your woman.

*Have a seperate life. Keep a good amount of dudes you cool with to kick it, and influence her to have her own personal time too, its makes time together, that much better

Thats all I got off the top of my head.....will back to post some more sheeit Ive learned in the last 8 years.

I hate to be a buzzkill man, but weren't you posting pictures of yourself with prostitutes in the Dominican Republic a few months back?

[Paydirt404]

i hate to be a buzzkill man, but weren't you posting pictures of yourself with prostitutes in the dominican republic a few months back?

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[Paydirt404]

Just got out of traffic, fresh on my mind with a few more.
(These may be applicable)

1. Join a gym/workout - You know you are gaining weight and that flab is getting out of control. BS to anyone that says they dont have time. You make time to post on chatboards and watch football, dont you?

Now true enough, your lady should love you for you, but that is no excuse to just "let yourself go". She'll appreciate it. Pushups and crunches mixed with the treadmill has never hurt anyone.

2. Keep your looks/hygiene together - Make sure you are presentable as much as possible. Keep a haircut, nails trimmed, balls smelling fresh. If your teeth are jacked up, go get them fixed, insurance should cover that.

Spice up your wardrobe as well. After a while its time to wear less jerseys and tennis shoes, and more slacks, button down shirts, and nice shoes. Invest in some sport jackets as well.

3. Dont forget the little things around the house. Keep the grass cut, vacuum the floor, help your old lady out with folding clothes. The less she has to do, the more she will appreciate it. You couldnt imagine how many chicks have bounced because the male wasnt being "the man of the house".

[sideoutshu]

Just got out of traffic, fresh on my mind with a few more.
(These may be applicable)

1. Join a gym/workout - You know you are gaining weight and that flab is getting out of control. BS to anyone that says they dont have time. You make time to post on chatboards and watch football, dont you?

Now true enough, your lady should love you for you, but that is no excuse to just "let yourself go". She'll appreciate it. Pushups and crunches mixed with the treadmill has never hurt anyone.

2. Keep your looks/hygiene together - Make sure you are presentable as much as possible. Keep a haircut, nails trimmed, balls smelling fresh. If your teeth are jacked up, go get them fixed, insurance should cover that.

Spice up your wardrobe as well. After a while its time to wear less jerseys and tennis shoes, and more slacks, button down shirts, and nice shoes. Invest in some sport jackets as well.

In addition, this is a psychological thing for the women. If you are looking your best, the first thing they are thinking to themselves is that you will be targeted by other women. The competetive juices get flowing and they get themselves in even better shape.

[Paydirt404]

in addition, this is a psychological thing for the women. If you are looking your best, the first thing they are thinking to themselves is that you will be targeted by other women. The competetive juices get flowing and they get themselves in even better shape.

+1.............

[A Disciple]

good points fellas.

[whigsplittaz]

I would think Aligators are more difficult.

AD,
I was serious with my comment earlier. Also to add to the low self-esteem post. Low self-esteem plus damaged goods is a SERIOUS NO NO!!!!!!!!!!! TRUST. If your woman springs something up on you later.........like when you're engaged. Bail!!!!!!!!!!!!

What alligators? no way they have a medulla oblongata a medulla oblongata but my mama say my mama say but my mama mama my mama say cuz they onery. Water boy haterz!!

[miracle]

All very good points, just wanted to add a thing or two,

1. Do what it took in the begining, meaning treat her how you treated her to get her in the first place.

2. The GOlden Rule, treat her how you want to be treated.

3. And lastly, i hate to throw religion in here but, little nugget... family that prays together stays together...

[A Disciple]

All very good points, just wanted to add a thing or two,

1. Do what it took in the begining, meaning treat her how you treated her to get her in the first place.

2. The GOlden Rule, treat her how you want to be treated.

3. And lastly, i hate to throw religion in here but, little nugget... family that prays together stays together...

Beautiful post Miracle

[Mr. Roberts]

1 Major thing make sure your willing to deal with her family.

[Arnysbill]

Much of the above info is good.

I got married late (36)... we are different in many ways but agree on the important stuff (core values, etc.).

She has my back and makes me a better person... and vice versa.

[jerseyjay14]

Question for the married fellas on the forum, are you "happily" married?

And if so, is it truly happiness or are you just content with the way things are? Also, tell us what you do to keep things fresh and happy in your household. Like is there advice that you would give a single fella on something that you have found in your years of marriage or wish you had known early on?

And for those of you that are unhappy... what is going on as to the reason why? Do you feel there were/are some things you could have done differently in order to make things better? Or what was it that she did that made things go south?


Now of course I do realize this is some extremely personal questions, so if there is anything that you don't want to go into too much detail about, I understand 100%. But any answers would be appreciated. Thanks fellas.

its been a couple years and im truly happy. I think what makes our relationship work the best is that our job schedules are so different that it gives both of us alot of "me time"...

she works 55-60 hour weeks, usually gets home around 7, and works overnight once a week. i have my own small business, work from home 3 days a week, and usually have from 2 to 6 pm to myself to do whatever i want... play games, do projects around the house, play some basketball, etc....

then when she gets home i have dinner going and she can relax. then in the mornning im usually gone until noon and she is home alone to relax or do whatever...

i think alot of the time, people get married, live together, and have the same or similar schedules, become to familiar, dont have enough me time and things just get blah....when you have more me time, and less us time the us time seems to stay fresh....

We also try and go out and do things 2 or so times a week... less stuff together at home and more stuff out - and not like dinner but stuff during the day - hiking or something

[SGF83]

If mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy!

[A Disciple]

its been a couple years and im truly happy. I think what makes our relationship work the best is that our job schedules are so different that it gives both of us alot of "me time"...

she works 55-60 hour weeks, usually gets home around 7, and works overnight once a week. i have my own small business, work from home 3 days a week, and usually have from 2 to 6 pm to myself to do whatever i want... play games, do projects around the house, play some basketball, etc....

then when she gets home i have dinner going and she can relax. then in the mornning im usually gone until noon and she is home alone to relax or do whatever...

i think alot of the time, people get married, live together, and have the same or similar schedules, become to familiar, dont have enough me time and things just get blah....when you have more me time, and less us time the us time seems to stay fresh....

We also try and go out and do things 2 or so times a week... less stuff together at home and more stuff out - and not like dinner but stuff during the day - hiking or something

thats a good response JJ. thanks for the input.

[feardaram]

i know i'm late, and it's already been said in a few ways, but make sure your chick has things she can do on her own before you marry her. this was a struggle for us at first. when we got married she sorta lost touch with her friends, she didn't have any real hobbies, and absolutely everything she wanted to do involved me. this was hard to deal with, because she felt neglected any time i wanted to do something that doesn't involve her (golf, gym, guy time, video games, etc).

she has gotten much better over time. she's made new friends, she's picked up a part-time job, she likes messing around on the computer/internet, and she has started reading a lot. this allows me to come home and just play call of duty if i want to because she doesn't feel like i need to tend to her every waking moment.